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Spankings in the outdoors

I have always had a fantasy of being spanked outside while hiking. I got to do that once while we were hiking. He brought along a pocket paddle. This is a small paddle that conveniently can fit in a back or front pocket. When we found a larger rock just off the path and no one else was around I was told to drop my shorts and bend over. I then got paddled right there. It was more thrilling and embarrassing because it was a well used trail and I didn't know if someone was going to come up and see me in this position.

The fact that no one came by while the spanking was going ion didn't lessen the feeling of embarrassment. A couple did come by shortly afterwards and I had to wonder if they heard what was going on. I'm sure my face was red at the time. I hope to be able to do it again though.

Migrating Implements

Ok what can I say..for some reason implements keep migrating from the nightstand drawer or the playroom into plain site. I just can't help myself, when they are in the drawer they don't get used as often as when they are around the house in plain sight. I can't say I like having the implements used on me that find themselves migrating out of the drawer or up from the playroom, but there is a strange need that compels me to move them where they will be used.

He asks me why I do it and I can't give him a satisfactory answer, it's usually "I don't know". That doesn't usually bode well for what happens next, as they are usually then used with fervor, for the "I don't know". I tend to put paddles, hairbrushes and canes out. There must be a part of me that needs that more forceful psychological feel, that wood brings with it. It just has a more domestic feel to it for me. A strap does too but not quite the same. Leather is more forgiving, although it can be just as painful..take for example the ruler strap or the viper tongue taws.... can you say ouch.

The spankings that follow this implement migration are usually painful in a very stingy my bottom feels like it is on fire sort of way. Afterward though I am always wearing a smile, along with that feeling of contentment that comes from having someone who cares about you give you what you need, even when during the actual spanking you are thinking "why on earth did I put this out again?" I really don't forget what it feels like, that is the part that gives me butterfly's and sometimes makes me put it away again before it gets found. It is a test of wills. Can I leave it out and deal with what comes or will I put it away and be disappointed that I didn't get the spanking I needed?

When a bottom becomes a switch

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The London Tanner world headquarters

When I was in Florida, on vacation, I had the privilege of visiting the headquarters for the London Tanner. I was amazed at the quantity of quality products that come out of the production headquarters. Walking into the production area the smell of leather and leather dye is a feast for the senses of any lover of leather. Ian had just finished the last touches on the last implements for a box set which were hung to dry. All the items are hand cut, stitched and dyed. There is no automation anywhere, which is why the quality is so high. When the process for creating a product becomes automated or machined it can lose a lot in the translation. Some things may be better or more consistent with a machine making them such as rims for a car or some metal working or etching, but for leather that is going to be smacking my behind, a product that is lovingly created by hand for maximum sting with beveled edges that aren't going to cut is always going to be my choice!

The London Tanner has a wide variety of implements from the not so severe to the down right ouchie versions such as the viper or prison strap. I love to hate them all. Some I love to hate more than others. The prison strap is one of my favorites, although only in the hands of someone who has a very controlled swing. There are two versions of the prison strap, the Arkansas prison strap and the Canadian prison strap. I am partial to the Canadian version. It seems to be heavier and thus stiffer and easier to swing for me when I'm topping. Also as a bottom the Canadian is thuddier, which I am partial too.

We have one of almost every type of strap the the London Tanner makes. I go through cycles as to which one I like the most and which one I hate the most. All of them can get my attention and hold it as well. When I first started playing I was scared of leather, but after experiencing the London Tanner spanking strop, at my first Shadowlane party, I started my collection of leather.

New spanking blog

I ran across a really good spanking blog for females spanking males. There are listings for female pro-doms, interviews as well as other tidbits. It has a wonderful search function as well. There is even a link for those who want to live the lifestyle and not just play.

For anyone interested in females spanking males this is a very interesting new blog.

fmspankingworld.com

Entertainment vs Abuse

In a book I'm reading the main character had just watched the torture of two kidnappers, who were selling children into slavery. The character is one who is named by some as "pain bearer". She is aroused by her own pain, but pain in a very controlled environment through flogging etc. Another of the characters says "it is a long way from playing with silken ropes and deerskin floggers" The book is Kushiel's Avatar, the author Jaqueline Carey. It is an interesting book for anyone who has a spanking fetish. The series starts with Kushiel's Dart.

Someone once said to me "How could you want to be spanked that is sick?". That is where the quote from the book really comes into play for me. Spanking as a fetish, from my point of view, is a far cry from abuse or torture.

For those who do not understand the spanking fetish they think of the canings in Shanghai, whippings on shipboard or even punishments as children. Any of those could be scenarios for play, but if those participating are responsible, it will never go into abuse or turn into something that is beyond the players limits. For those who play at punishment there are safe words involved. The limits of the players may be tested, but should never crossed. That is the difference between abuse and play. The one being punished, is the one in control. To those watching it may not look that way, but if the one being spanked says stop (uses their safe word) the play stops.

Spanking as a fetish is for enjoyment, whether that comes through mild or more intense pain, chastisement or verbal banter, it is a controlled event. When it moves out of that zone it is no longer play and the participants are not being responsible. That is not to say that for some, the level of play is much more severe than others are comfortable with. Each person needs to play at their own level and make sure that those they are playing with know what that level is. It is better to ere on the light side than find you have crossed the line. That goes for both spanker's and spankee's. Both players have certain limits that they don't want to cross. You shouldn't ask anyone to go beyond what they are comfortable with.

Spanking graphics

For those who like spanking graphics there is a new site that launched for females spanking males . It has some 180 graphics with all female tops in varying styles. The graphics are done in varying settings. Some are more domestic, like the one here while others are more non traditional.



The graphics are all very well done for those who like graphics with females spanking males it is a rare treat.

The site is FmSpankingArt.com

Wood Therapy

Do you need some wood therapy?

That is a loaded question. I heard that the other day and yes of course I could say, but at the same time in the context of having been being a brat, that could be a very hard spanking indeed. So they answer was yes and no. Yes I was being a brat because I needed a spanking, but the thinking part of me was saying no, that is going to hurt. ..

Ah well for those of you who are spankees and love it, you know that feeling of dread and anticipation that fires the soul. That spark of fear mixed with delight.

When that first strike falls on bare skin and the pain blossoms and flows through you to your core. If the spanker is good and can read you, someone who knows and understands you, that ride can be a painful delight. It is a ride that someone who isn't drawn wholly to spanking never can understand. Someone who is a talented spanker is an artist. The spanker can touch the depths of your soul and set you free. By the same token a spanker who missuses that power can bring a spankee to the depths of destruction.

For some it is wood that touches their soul, for others it is leather, while for another it may be the touch of the hand that is the key. For me that call changes and for the one that knows me the best, he knows what call to make and how far to run, carrying me along in a river of bliss mixed with the pain in my bottom. A pain that brings relief and comfort with his stern hand.

You know you are in trouble when

When do you get that feeling in your stomach? When I say that feeling I mean the feeling that some people call butterflies, others call sinking in the pit of the stomach. Is it when you hear the words "march yourself downstairs right now". Could it be the dreaded " Drop your pants and bend over" Or is it simply when they get that look on their face or pick up an implement.

For me it can be any/all of the above. Or it can simply be if I hold an implement and know I will hand it to him later for hisuse. For some people that feeling is a feeling of dread for others like myself it is more a feeling of anticipation.

When he is going to spank me he always has that certain look in his eye as he reaches for my arm or shoulder to steer me to where I will be getting spanked. Sometimes I go oh so willingly, but others I will be squirmy or fussy. It doesn't change the inevitable, except that if I am mouthy or too fussy it may make the spanking longer or harder. That is what makes it fun to do sometimes. It is a matter of walking that line between the lighter and harder spanking. It varies what will bring on that harder spanking. Sometimes I get a harder spanking than I was trying for, but that is the risk I run. If I say I don't want one I won't get one though. So that being said if I don't say that, I will get what he feels I have coming!

I also know I'm in real trouble and the spanking is going to be a hard one when he pins my legs down. I guess he doesn't want to get his hand kicked, or maybe he is just looking out for my welfare and doesn't want to accidentally hit a wildly flailing foot.

It's been awhile

So I have been told that I have been very naught in neglecting my posting duties. I'm afraid this is true I keep letting other things get in the way.

I was going to post in January about "the first spanking" of the year.
We went to a movie and on the way we were discussing spankings and the first one of the year. He decided that I should get one smack for each day of the year with extras for any day that I might be naught. He figured there would be quite a few of those, for some odd reason.

I can't imagine how he could even think I might be naughty, but you know how men are, they just think we are naughty all the time. I guess that is so they can spank us poor sweet innocent women!

Ah well I did get my spanking when we got home. There was the hand which is a nice experience, although lately I wonder if he sneaks in a board in place of his hand. I guess I'm getting wimpy. I wasn't as wimpy in January though, so I also got a few straps and of course one or two hair brushes. He also used the evil blue thing, although I have heard other more colorful names for this implement. All in all it was very satisfying though my bottom was very tingly when he was finished.

Topping

Image from Colorado Spankers

Topping is a very different experience than bottoming. It is also has a different type of responsibility. As a bottom it is your responsibility to keep the top appraised of your play level. If you are uncomfortable or experiencing more pain than you want. I am not in a domestic discipline relationship, so all of the spankings for me on both sides of the paddle are for fun.

As a top you are responsible for being aware of the bottom and how they are doing. You are the giver in this position. You want to give the bottom a good experience. It is important to discuss with the bottom before playing what type of spanking they are looking for. Once the spanking starts you want to stay aware of how the bottom is doing. This can be determined through body language, sass level and safe word. You should never use an implement that is not acceptable to the bottom or an implement that you don't know how to use or are not comfortable with or have not felt (for those that only top, that means at least on a hand or thigh).

It is important to know how an implement is going to react. Different straps react differently as do different cane types. Some straps are more likely to twist and so need to be used with a fast swing which is more intense. Some canes are more pliable and so are more likely to wrap because they have more flex. You also need to understand the reach of both canes and straps, because wrapping either type of implement or using it improperly or out of the target range will not endear you to the bottom you are playing with!

What does the top get out of the interaction. For me it is about being able to give the bottom what they need. It should be an enjoyable, if painful, experience. It is fulfilling as a top to be able to do that. It is also a feeling of accomplishment to be able to have control over the implements that you use, being able to use them at different intensities to give the bottom the feeling that they are looking for. It is also a feeling of power given to you by the bottom.

Some bottoms will only ever bottom, some tops will only top and some of us will experience both sides with all the joys and pains found there in.

The punishment jar

I am always thinking of new reasons to get spanked....Hmm do I even need a reason...

I liked the idea of the punishment jar. I just used it a bit differently. I was playing a computer strategy game and a stone went in for each of my characters that died. There are three colors of stones: clear for hand, light colored for strap and dark colored for wood. The problem with the game is the armies were large and so I ended up with an overflowing jar 8)

I didn't pick the stones based on color I just grabbed them and put them in the jar without looking at the color (that was for fate to say). Since there ended up being several hundred stones in the jar by the time I was done I got the spankings over several days.

To decide what the penalty would be for the day I got to shake some of the stones out of the jar. If I was feeling brave, or feisty, it was more. The implements used were his choice based on the color of the stones. So it could be anything from a lightweight leather strap all the way up to the prison strap. The same was true of wood, it could be a lightweight paddle or big heavy paddle. It depended mostly on if I was being sassy or being well behaved.

I loved the anticipation and the resulting warm tingle in my bottom, but the during that was something else!

Why is it that I always seem to forget the extent of what the during feels like? The thing I remember is always the butterflies before and that warm contentment afterwards. I guess that explains why I am always looking for ways to get a spanking.

Want vs Need

When is a spanking needed and when is it just a want. There are the domestic discipline couples who it is a need when the discipline is due. Outside of that when is it just something that a spankee wants and when is it a need. Also what does that need/want entail.

What is it that a spankee wants out of a spanking? This varies from person to person. There are the people that want the ceremony of the spanking, the scenario so to say. The emotional anxiety of the scolding and maybe corner time to think about what is to come or what came before. Some people want/need the scenario, or the spanking is not full fulfilling/meaningful. For those people the scenario would be a need. For others it just adds to the atmosphere and then it would be a want. Some may only need the threat of a spanking and not actually the spanking itself.

As far as the spanking itself, when does a spanking become a need and not just a want. I would say that when the desire begins to invade everyday life, daydreams at work, while driving, or at inopportune moments. I would say then it is turning from a want to a need. When it starts interfering with your everyday life.

The there are the types of spanking. Is it a light spanking with the scenario/story that is needed, the feeling of not having control? Or is it the actual pain related to a more painful spanking, with or without the scenario.

For me it is the spanking itself. I need to feel like someone else is in control, even though if I want it to stop, it will stop. It is the feeling of the implement or hand connecting with that tender bottom flesh that takes my breath away. The sting that I always seem to be able to forget by the time the spanking comes (no matter how soon that may be). By the same token I need to feel safe and know the person who is doing the spanking to be able to get the same level of fulfillment from the spanking. Does that mean that spankings at parties aren't fun? No, those spanking just serve a different purpose.

When to Switch

When in a relationship with a switch, how do you decide when to switch?

There are many methods for deciding when to swicth. I know people who swicth on specific days, people who decide spur of the moment by mood. Others who do it randomly by drawing cards. For me it seems to be a combination of random and semi scheduled. My favorite is a little red octopus massager that migrates from bedside table to bedside table. Whoever has it get's the spankings. This is something we use for fun. The person who is the spanker is the one who get's to move it. Since it seems that all true switches can't live without their spankings for very long t tends to migrate often. Now if it ends up anywhere else, then either of us is fair game for a spanking.

Spankings for both of us are a fun activity and not for discipline purposes. That however doesn't mean that the spankings cannot be a discipline scenerio. There are hard spankings and playful spankings. It seems I like the more stern toned spankings for home and the more relaxed one at parties. For me it is hard to get the same head space with someone I play with only rarely.

It is a wonderful thing if you are a switch to be able to find another person who you can switch with both ways. That is something that is difficult for many people to understand. When switching most people will only top or bottom with any given person. For many topping someone who they also bottom to, makes lose some of the power exchange that would be there if they only bottomed to them. That is the same the other way around as well. It can be embarrassing for someone who has been topping an individual to suddenly be the one getting the spanking from that same individual.

New Years Eve

The year was coming to an end and I actually had the day off. That meant spankings galore :)

With the end of the Christmas season I get more time to spend at home and am not so exhausted. Although for some reason I am much more tender these days, probably since I haven't been spanked as much because work has been interfering. I have come to have a reputation of being able to take hard spankings, but now even his hand stings and makes my bottom tingle. So he has been enjoying the fact that he gets a much better reaction with much less work.

Now that doesn't mean that he doesn't use the hairbrush or the paddles anymore. He has a lot of fun bringing those out and watching my reaction. I guess the fact that I still ask for it, might have something to do with it too.

I wanted to end the year with my bottom feeling the thunder of the fireworks and he didn't disappoint me. I brought him different implements throughout the day. It is a good thing we have a large toy chest. There are favorites, or at least ones I love to hate! there is the Nu west hairbrush, the bath brush, my new wolf strap, the prison strap, the domestic discipline strap, the school paddle and many others. The toy box was definitely well used with time in between the spankings to give my bottom time to lose it's glow. Then I always brought something again. He just shakes his head and says you know this is going to hurt.

Ah well what can I say, when the cravings are upon me I have no recourse but to follow. Good thing I have a good play partner who looks out for me and doesn't let me get in over my head.

It was a wonderful new years eve that I felt for many days to follow. You know you have been well spanked when a soft car seat make you gasp when you sit down the next day. Good thing a work standing up!

Hope you all had as great a New Years as I did.

Christmas

The new spanking novels lay on the table in front of me along with other helpful items like a foot massager, but the item that has my full attention is the new wolf strap. There are wolf paw prints on the strap and a howling wolf on the handle. The stiffness of the thick new leather bring a tingle to the pit of my stomach as I know it will soon be used on my bottom.

I was not to be disappointed as shortly there after I was bent over the kitchen counter receiving a taste of the new strap. Being a thick strap it has a thuddy and stingy feel. I do love it, both for it's looks and the feel of it.

That was not to be the last of my spankings for the day, but one of the first. I got strapped, paddle and hand spanked. There were hair brushes and small stingy strap ( the ruler strap ) as well as large attention getting straps ( the prison strap ) among other items.

We didn't have to go anywhere for Christmas as both our families live out of state; so we had a relaxing day that kept my bottom rosy, warm and tingly. A perfect celebration of the giving and receiving spirit of Christmas. It may not be the way most people celebrate, but it definitely kept me smiling and content all day long and for days to come as well!

Time Flies

Well it has been over a month since I could post last. I wanted to post after Thanksgiving to write about my lovely Thanksgiving spanking. I felt that one for several days!

Work has been crazy with 12 hour days the norm and 6 day weeks now the norm as well. That means by the time I get home I am exhausted and ready for a soak and sleep.

Spankings were almost non existent for the last month, due to my work schedule, until the last few days when I have gotten a spanking a day.

I made some silly comment about looking forward to the season of giving being over so I could be on the receiving end again. So in the past three days I have gotten the hand, wooden paddle ( a variety, including the evil Nu West hairbrush), leather paddle, cane and various straps. Wow spanking sting a lot more when you haven't been spanked in a while!

Getting spankings definitely lowers my stress level and helps me sleep better! I'm looking forward to a Christmas spanking!

I will try and post more once the New year hits and work slows down again. Until then I hope everyone gets to have the spankings they wish for and are able to give the spanking they hope to.

http://spankers.protgp.com/index.htm great site for spanking information.

Spanking Dreams

When the spankings are not happening in the real plane, they tend to start occurring with more frequency in my dreams.

Yesterday there was an incident with a single tail, a flogger and of course the dreaded ( and loved) hairbrush. Although I have never had a single tail used on me it was interesting in my dream. It puts the spanker at a further distance and since it was a dream I could watch it being used. The slight red marks showing up shortly after impact. It might be interesting to actually have one used. It would just have to be someone who was very good with one, since it is such a long implement with lots of room for error.

The thing about dreams is sometimes I get to watch my own reactions and the reactions of the spanker.

As much as dreams of spanking are nice the real thing is better! Soon the real ones will be visiting my bottom again and I will be happy with a rosy bottom.

On Hold

Well this month has been a sadly spank free month so far. The 30 implements are still sitting waiting to be used. I got a bad cold and he hurt his shoulder. Of course it was on his spanking arm.... *sigh*

The bright spot therein is that I know the time will come when they will be used and I can fantasize about the coming spankings :)