A couple great drawings

The National Lampoon cover is a great classic.

I love the show kicked off and the arm ready to descend on the defenseless bare bottom.

The Home sweet home one is great because of the severity of his expression and how serious he is about the spanking. As well as her very red bottom. She is obviously paying for her indiscretions.

What do I look for in a spanker?

I love this picture. It gives me butterflies thinking about what a hairbrush feels like on a bared bottom!




I do so like the hairbrush in all it's painful glory. In the hands of a dominant, compassionate male it gives me wonderful butterflies. I did say compassionate, and not gentle. I like the spankings to feel real or I feel cheated somehow. Someone who can tread that line between pleasure and pain is a gift to the hungering bottom!

I look for several things when deciding if someone will spank me. Yes, unless it is a domestic discipline or master/slave relationship, I believe the spanking is the bottoms decision. It is after all a pretty intimate endeavor.

• Spark- Do I feel a connection to the person in any way?
• Accuracy- Are they accurate? Do they know how to use the implements they have? Are they comfortable with the implement?
• Mood- Am I in the mood and do they have the presence I need? Meaning do they put me in the mood for a spanking or make me feel the opposite. I like confidence, but hate arrogance. Unless it is someone I know well, telling me I am going to be spanked, will bring out the Dom in me and you might be getting the spanking instead.

The spanking should be about the person getting the spanking and the spanker should also enjoy the experience. That is what makes a great spanking.

How do I find a person I think I would like to be spanked by?

• Parties are a great place- watching other public spankings to see how someone spanks and maybe learn some new tricks as a spanker.
• Word of mouth- Spankees are great for letting you know who is good and who is not. Just take into account what types of spankings they like. A bad reference from some, may be just the type of spanker you are looking for.
• References from a spanking sites you trust. My favorite spanker, I met through a recommendation from Chastenwood. Also recommendations from friends who know you well, can be very helpful.
  

Just remember to go with your gut instinct. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

Testing out the new brush

I had been asking for a spanking for a few days, but my spanker had hurt his back so it had to wait. Yesterday I got a call when he was getting ready to come home. I was to be in the corner in the spanking room and have the new hairbrush ready and waiting when he got home. Talk about butterflies. I got everything ready and then waited until I heard him come in to hop in the corner. I know that was naughty of me, but I didn't get caught.

He told me to come out of the corner and put my hands on the seat of the chair and arch my back so my bottom was in a good position. He decided to be lenient and give me some with his hand first. After the hand I got several licks with the double strap and then it was the new hair brush. It seemed stingier than the original, which since it is a lighter weight wood it would make sense. Oh and never forget to answer promptly and respectfully when asked a question, or like me you may get a few extra hard swats, to get you back into a respectful mode.

Later before bed I was curious if the old hairbrush was really not as stingy as the new one so I set it out on the bed with the red meanie, not my most brilliant of decisions 8)

So I got the the hand, red meanie and the old hairbrush. Yes it is a little less stingy, but also more penetrating, because it's heavier. I loved the before and after, but during the spanking was major ouch. I can still feel it this morning as I'm writing, especially in that tender sit spot!

Be careful what you ask for. If your lucky, like me, you may just get it!

You Know you are an Spanking Enthusiast When...

When you count swats instead of sheep (yes I do, it shuts anything else out that might keep me from getting to sleep). When there is a room in the house you live in that has coat hooks with straps instead of coats on them. When you look at furniture for their ability to position a bottom, or support a spanker, for spanking then you are a spanko.

I have been in to spanking since the first grade when I saw a 7th grader get paddle in front of a full auditorium full of us at school. I wondered what it would be like to be him, having that paddle come down on my bottom instead. We also played house with my cousins and I was always trying to misbehave, so I could get spanked.

I didn't really fully embrace my fetish until a few years ago. It was like rubbing a magic genies lantern. Before then I was scared that people would think I was strange, or as I had been told in the past by people I was in relationships with, that it was stupid or sick. I met some wonderful people a few years ago and was introduced to a more supportive network than I knew before. I went from mainly being spanked to switching ( both spanking and being spanked ).

I am pretty much middle of the road now. Some people I only spank, some people I am spanked by and others I switch with based on mood at the time of the spanking.

There are many safe places to explore spanking like Shadowlane and Florida Moonshine. A site that has a lot of good spanking related content is Colorado Spankers . There are also other sites dealing with submission, domestic discipline and play or situation spankings.

I don't participate in domestic discipline, but I do get spanked often.

Stress Relief in Wood, Leather and Flesh

For me the best stress relief comes over the knee or over the box ( there will be a picture in the next post). A spanking for me is a way to totally focus and leave any stress behind. The more stressed I am the more severe I like my spankings. For fun, light spankings are fine, but for getting into that calm totally jelly like state a firm whipping or paddling is the only thing that does the trick.

During a hard spanking, especially, the body releases a lot of endorphins which dull pain and relax you. That is where that wonderful floating totally relaxed feeling comes from. Now the heat and tingly, stingy feeling definitely comes from the hand or implement being applied to my defenseless bottom.

The implements that come in to play for the heavier sessions range from hairbrush/bath brush to the cane or prison strap as well as anything in between.

For some of the sessions I like to be restrained using ankle and wrist cuffs. It gives it a more defenseless and helpless note. Other times I like to be told to hold my position and take my "punishment" and if I can't stay in position I get extra swats.

For this type of spanking you really have to trust the person doing the spanking and I only allow people who I know are extremely accurate near me for harder play. For true "punishment" scenarios I have only one person I play with at that level. If I'm going to get bruises, I want them where I want them, and I don't want them there by mistake.

After Care

Spanking after care is an important part of a spanking. There is the simple lotion for chaffing. For bruising Arnica gel works very well. Some people use tablets, I like the gel. Some others use a combination of the gel and tablets.

If the spankee has been especially naughty during the spanking we keep a small spray bottle with rubbing alcohol in it for the end of the spanking. It is very cooling if the spanking has not caused any tiny abrasions. If there are abrasions it burns. Just use lotion afterwards if using alcohol to avoid drying the skin.

If it is a play spanking, rubbing afterwards is also very much appreciated by many spankees, just check with the spankee first.

Another Great Book

This is another great book for spanking enthusiast. It goes more in depth than does the Compleat Spanker. It is written by Jules Markham. It covers a range of possible positions for the spankee and areas of the spankee's body that may be spanked safely at three levels of intensity. It covers the use of the hand, of simple implements ("fraternity" paddles being one of them). It describes many ways in which two people can set up scenarios that lead to spanking and it concludes with a description of spanking-related games that may be played amongst a group of people as well. It even has a domestic discipline contract if you want to take it more involved level.

This book is also available from Amazon.