Another Great Book

This is another great book for spanking enthusiast. It goes more in depth than does the Compleat Spanker. It is written by Jules Markham. It covers a range of possible positions for the spankee and areas of the spankee's body that may be spanked safely at three levels of intensity. It covers the use of the hand, of simple implements ("fraternity" paddles being one of them). It describes many ways in which two people can set up scenarios that lead to spanking and it concludes with a description of spanking-related games that may be played amongst a group of people as well. It even has a domestic discipline contract if you want to take it more involved level.

This book is also available from Amazon.

For the new spanker/spankee

This is a wonderful book for those exploring the spanking fetish and for explaining to your significant other about the fetish if they don't understand. It has chapters like "Why Do We Like Spanking?; Anatomy of a Spankee; Warm up; Implements; Positions; and Tips, Tricks & Fun Things to Try". You can purchase this book at Amazon.com.

It is much easier for a vanilla ( someone who isn't into spanking ) to accommodate a spankee than to become a spankee. For a spankee ( one who likes getting spankings) it fills a void and/or is an enjoyable (though sometimes painful) experience.

There are as many types of spankings as there are people into spankings. The spankings range from playful taps to severe punishment styles. Not every type of spanking is right for every individual. Some spankers/spankees will only ever use playful spankings, while others will experience the full gamut.

Luckiest of Spankers

I was very lucky at one of the local parties to have the privilege of spanking the lovely Bailey. She is a very lovely spanking model who you can see more of at Spanking Bailey.

She is very sweet and has a wonderful bottom for spanking. She also has a nack for getting into trouble for which she needs to be spanked.

Leather Paddles for those who can't decide between wood and leather

The paddles in the picture are all leather paddles. The one on the left I made. It is covered on one side with sheep's wool for a gentle spanking. The other side is double thick leather for a wake up smack now and again.

The next paddle is the nanny paddle from the London Tanner. It has a good size for chastising each cheek individually. The last two are hairbrush paddles from Adam and Gillians . These paddles are leather with lexan in the middle. They have a wonderfully thuddy impact and come in two sizes. They are individually made so the sizes are not always the same for large and small. They are very durable and have a deep impact. The hairbrush paddle was the first implement I had used on me after the hairbrush and it is now one of my favorite implements.

Wood the Bane of the Bottom

The wooden paddle. Like the hairbrush but generally larger. From left to right CU frat paddle, high ouch factor and the spanker needs to stay on target due to it's large size ( meaning..know where the tail bone is).

The next one is similar to a heavy ruler as far as the feel. It is narrower than the other paddles, so there is more room if the spanker errs in placement when using it, although it is more stingy than thuddy. It is both beautiful and easy to use, made by Exotic Paddles .

The third one is a cheese board sold by the Great Alaskan Bowl company and made by Alaskan Birch crafts the surface is smooth as silk. It is a very thick paddle made out of a lighter weight wood so it is thuddy, but easy to use. It is not available on their web site, but can be ordered by phone. They will also personalize it, if you wish.

The Next paddle is the Captains choice with an extra long handle special ordered from Exotic Paddles with a requested wolf graphic on it. This paddle is made of a very dense wood and is both extremely stingy and thuddy at the same time. If the spankees attention is wandering at all, this will bring it back into bright focus as they see stars when it impacts.

The final paddle on the right is a handy paddle that can easily fit in the back pocket for easy access and transport, sold at a Shadowlane Party vendor fair.

My favorite paddle of those shown in the picture is the cheese board. I like thud more and due to it's thickness it has a nice thud and is light enough to be used anytime. The pocket paddle is a good traveling implement because it is easily concealed in a back pocket, unlike some of the larger paddles. It is also small enough for anyone with even a little understanding of spanking to use. They need only understand where the tail bone is and that it isn't about hitting as hard as you can.

Canes the Fiery Pain

The canes pictured are all from Cane 4 Pain. The one on the right is from the Grand Dukes collection. It was nicknamed the thumper by a friend at Florida Moonshine. He introduced it to me at a Shadowlane party. I told him there was no way he was going to use that huge beastly thing on me. As you can see I now have one and share the wonderful sensation with any female who is willing to not be deterred by the site of the thick and heavy rattan. I saw it used at a BDSM event to where blood was flowing. That is not how I like to have it used on me. The thumper is just that. It is used at the end of a spanking, or anytime for that matter, at the bade of the buttocks in a light thumping rhythm. For women it is much like a gentle vibrator, sorry guys it just doesn't work for you.

The second cane is the dancing fairy, nicknamed by the wonderful man who most often spanks me. It is very good at making me dance and has a very beautiful fairy at the top of the handle. The beautiful canes made by Whip Dancer at Canes 4 Pain are beautiful enough to hang above the mantle and be appreciated for their decorative qualities and stingy enough to get the attention of wayward lads and lasses. The last two are basic canes, the blue has a latex dipped handle and the other is just you basic cane.

Canes are very stingy and can and do often leave marks. They look very stiff, but are in fact very pliable. Of all the implements this one is the one needing the most practice and the most care when using. It tends to float from the spot that is the target either moving up or down and the tip will wrap given the chance. It has the whippy qualities of a strap and the biting quality of wood. It will leave mark easily from red lines, raised welts and cuts.

Never try a cane the first time on a person. Always practice with a new cane on a pillow or other inanimate soft object. The reason for this is each cane reacts differently. Some canes are stiffer then others as well as being different lengths.

Canes are a feeling you can learn to like. I prefer thicker canes. The thicker canes have a thuddier feel than the thinner canes which are much stingier. A cane also has an after burn. First you feel the initial burn of the impact and then a wave of burn. If you want to experience it, have someone who is well versed in the use of the can introduce you to this most interesting and quite unusual sensation!

So colorful and yet so painful

The polyurethane straps seen in the picture are from the left the red meanie (named by the spankees who have felt it). The original discipline strap with handle addded. The mini poly-ruler, the poly-ruler and the poly prison strap.

The original blue was sold without the handle in a religious supply store for discipline of children. A local BDSM person decided they were better used on consenting adults and bought them and put handles on for comfort of use. A friend of mine made the original red meanie, which is now used by some of the spanking video companies such as Real Spankings.

I decided to take it one step further and add handles and ouch factor with the ruler and prison straps. These straps have real sting. They have a bite similar to rubber, but do not grab like rubber, so don't have the abrading affect that rubber does. These straps are also easily washed and very durable.

They are not for the faint of heart or light players due to their high ouch factor.

Traditional Implements belt/strap

The belt and the hairbrush are the most traditional implements.

In the picture is the traditional belt across the top. The from left to right are Spanking strop 20x2 & 17x1.5, corporal punishment ruler strap, domestic discipline strap, Glasgow Tawse, the Canadian Prison strap all by the London Tanner and the final one is one I made for fun. It is a very evil five fingered tawse that is fairly heavy.

I dislike the belt because of it's floppy nature. It needs to be swung fairly quickly in order to land flat. It is also longer than other straps, made with spanking in mind, and so has more of a tendency to wrap (when the strap hits around the side of the hip). This can be avoided by wrapping an end around the spanker's hand or folding the belt to make it shorter, which also makes it denser.

My favorite strap in the spanking strop on the left side. It was the first strap I was spanked with. It is heavy enough to sting and short enough to make it easy for most people to use without wrapping.

The ruler strap is an evil invention, translation extremely stingy like a cane. It is a very good strap for getting someones attention and in it's shorter version is also very easy to control. It can still get a spankee's attention, even late in a spanking. The longer version seen here can wrap if the spanker isn't being careful.

The prison strap is heavy enough for a very thuddy impact and strappy enough to sting at the same time. It is wonderfully powerful, both mentally and physically, when used by an accomplished spanker. Used by a novice it can be very painful and dangerous due to it's large size and weight.

One of my fondest strapping memories was at a Shadowlane Party being spanked with two prison straps, one by a left handed spanker and one by a right handed spanker. Talk about heaven! If you have two straps that are very similar and two spanker's that work well together I would recommend this to anyone who likes being spanked. It is painful by wonderfully uplifting and invigorating. It can also be done with two paddles or canes etc. I prefer the strap version however. I have also participated in doing this as a top and find it a rewarding experience to work in tandem with another spanker as well.

Traditional Implements (hairbrush)

The two most traditional implements are the hairbrush and the belt.

In the picture you see from the left an ebony hairbrush, a hairbrush we found at an antique store that I refinished, a NU West hairbrush, a bath brush from the Vermont Country store, and the one on the right is from Shadowlane.

Many people fear the hairbrush or any wood. I would say with good reason. This implement is very unforgiving against tender flesh. It stings and penetrates and can leave lasting marks in the form of deep bruising if used heavily. It is very easy to control, due to it being a stiff implement, there is very little chance of missing the mark or wrapping like you can with a strap. However due to it's unforgiving nature used to excess or by someone who doesn't know the limits of the bottom (spankee) it can cause damage both temporary (bruising) to more lasting or permanent if the spanker hit's the tail bone or pelvic bone.

Personally, I like this implement and ask to be spanked with it on a consistent basis. I also like to use the hairbrush, specially the Vermont country store bath brush, because of it's longer handle. The brush gets a spanker's attention even when they have become desensitized toward the end of a spanking. I like the very traditional feel and connotation that it brings to a spanking. Discipline at it's very core. It can be used over the knee or with the spanker bent over a bench, bed, or touching their toes ( if they are that limber, I most definitely am not ).

The ebony hairbrush is definitely one I would relegate to the, for looks department, unless you really are a masochist, it is very dense and hurts like %$#@#. I always forget how much the bath brush hurts, because I pick it again and again. The ebony one I haven't forgotten, kind of like having your bottom run over by elephants and stung by millions of bees at the same time.

The brush is not an implement for a novice or to use with someone who you have never spanked, unless they ask you specifically to use it. It is also not one to let someone who has never spanked you use, unless you are very sure of their ability and their knowledge of the implement.

The Broken Paddle

There is nothing quite like the thrill of having a paddle broken on your bottom. Well at the time of the breakage it isn't a thrill, it takes quite a painful impact to break one, but later....

I was being quite sassy and not behaving at all when the paddle came down with a thud and ...broke.....

The spanking didn't stop then, I had to go get something else. Such is the life of a sassy disobiedient bottom.

We kept the pieces and found a siutable board to mount it on and saved it for posterity. It makes me smile whenever I see it.

What makes a switch

A switch in the realm of spanking is a person who likes to be on both sides of the spanking.

The individual who is a switch both like to give and receive spankings. This varyies in degree based on the person and circumstance. For me it is fairly even, with a leaning to the receiving end. I enjoy the "lack of control" on the receiving end and the "control" on the giving end.

Just as there are many views on spankings, there are just as many on the act of switching.

Some people never switch. They are strictly tops ( spankers) or bottoms ( spankees ). There are both males and females of both types, although there are more female spankees and male tops.

Some people only switch with one gender or are only spanked by one gender. Some can't switch with someone they are spanked and for others they are not affected by this power exchange in the same way and can easily switch from one position to the other.

It all comes down to what makes you comfortable. If it isn't something you feel comfortable or safe with, don't do it. Follow your instincts and do what is right for you.